Who is a Life Coach?
A life coach is a man like you and me, a life coach is a
man with feelings and emotions like you and me. She too feels happy and sad,
like a normal human being will. However, most life coaches have learnt to
accept their feelings. Most of them have learnt to really accept themselves
as they are and they are the people who have also learnt to love themselves, at
the same time they are also the people with a strong resilience to change
themselves - though it may sound like a paradox but the person who loves
himself deeply enough is the one who brings about a profound change in his/her
life.
Most life coaches work on the principle that they are the
masters of their destiny. Whatever is going to happen in life is based on their
decisions. They work on the principle that, 'Life is not about conditions, it
is about decisions'. At the same time they also know the simple fact that they
can control their decisions but not the after affects of it.
For most life coaches, their mind is precious and they
pay special attention to it. Which means they are mindful of what goes inside
their minds, they are mindful of what they are watching in the television, they
are even mindful of the words that people use in their day to day conversation.
If you are with a good life coach, she will smilingly point to a word that you
use and how even a single word is affecting the climate of your mind and how by
replacing this word you can positively change your inner and outer environment.
Most life coaches, are self directive. This means that
most life coaches do not give advices. A life coach is convinced about the fact
that he can only control his/her life. Life of others is not in his/her hand.
Another thing that a life coach knows is that advices do not work, because
every individual and his/her situations are unique. The job of a life coach is
to empower and not to disempower ; by giving advice he can disempower his
coachee hence he avoids it. One more reason why life coaches do not give advice
is because they believe in the innate potential of a human being; a life coach
will believe in you, he knows that, 'you have the best answers to all your
problems'.
Most life coaches work hard on improving the quality of
their lives. Since most life coaches realise the importance of their work, they
do not indulge in over drinking, eating, etc. Most life coaches showcase a
balanced life or diligently strive for it. Life coaches are not perfect human
beings but they are the people who believe in themselves and believe in every
human being that comes to them. The beautiful profession of life coaching helps
them to be mindful of their thoughts and the thoughts of people with whom they
interact.
No one comes to the profession of life coaching just like
that, mostly, there is an inner calling and most life coaches are people who
have answered this inner calling
What life coaches
do?
For thousands of years most people believed that, 'it was
impossible for them to run the mile in less than four minutes. But in 1954,
Roger Bannister broke this belief by doing what seemed impossible. It had
seemed no one would ever be able to break a four minute mile, yet within one
year of Roger's breaking the barrier, 37 other runners also broke it. And year
after that 300 runners did the same.
We are what we think
-Buddha
The age old saying is a statement of fact verified so
many thinkers. It is our beliefs that shape us, it is our beliefs that produce
the results - whether wanted or unwanted. Millions of people around the globe
suffer from physical and mental pains and yet there are few amongst us, aye!
the few amongst us which are able to alleviate themselves from the relative
existence of this world and are above the quagmire of the world in which we live.
How? Simply by their belief, because they think that they can.
'History of this world is the story of few men and women who had belief in themselves'.
- Swami Vivekananda
Have you ever been able to stop yourself for a while and
think and reflect about your life and have been able to deeply introspect about
your own motives and about where you are heading to in your life? If you are
answer is yes then you can congratulate yourself, because most of us do not
even stop for a while in life to really question our motives and identify where
are we taking our life. As a matter of fact, it is not the life that takes us,
it is we, 'our decisions that take our life'.
If after reading the above statement you are relenting about your past
decisions then I would like to say that relenting too is a decision, it is a
decision that will further strengthen the grip of the quicksand from which you
want to come out.
Here are few important things that life coaches do
1. They believe in you
Entire profession of life coaching is based on the fact
that human beings have infinite potential. Unfortunately, most of us have come
from background where most of our great beliefs were doubted. Doubt, interruption,
interference, criticism are the best recipe to kill a potent belief that can
change the world. A life coach believes you. He believes that you are great, he
believes that you are unique and you have your own unique talents to make a
positive impact on our world. There is only one thing that a life coach will
not believe in, i.e. if you go to him/her and tell him that you are good for
nothing or if you tell him/her that you are a mediocre.
2. They educate you in true sense
Life coaches are educators in true sense. The word
education comes from the Latin word edu which means, 'to draw out' and cos,
which means, 'the best'. Thus the real meaning of education is 'to draw out the
best from within'. This is exactly what life coaches do. They bring out the
best from within you. Haven't experiences as yet? well you may like to give it
a try.
3. They challenge your thoughts
Life coaches are professionals who are trained to
identify ineffective or disempowering thoughts that you may use in your day to
day life. Most of these thoughts are used by us, unconsciously. A good life
coach will bring these thoughts to your consciousness and then challenge you
and make you aware about the effects of these thoughts. It is the most exciting
work that most life coaches do because ultimately it is our thoughts that shape
our lives.
4. They stretch you
Life coaches believe in your innate potential and do not
hesitate in making you uncomfortable for your betterment.
There are many other things that life coaches do, but
perhaps it can be too detailed.
Meeting a life coach and participating in a life coaching
process can be a very rewarding and enriching experience. If you think you are
spending money while meeting a life coach then do re consider your thought
because visiting a life coach is an investment and it can be one of the best
investment of your life. As it is said by someone that, 'unresolved thoughts
and feelings are worst than cancer' and the great ancient philosopher Socrates
has but it so beautifully that , "An un examined life is not worth
living".
Thank you for reading the article. Kindly accept my
reverence to the divinity within you.
